Parenting is one of the hardest jobs around and you are not alone if you feel it all gets a bit much at times. Our Inclusion Team at Ryecroft Academy are here to support you.
We can support you with:
- Your child’s behaviour in the home including developing routines
- School uniform
- Money worries including budgeting and emergency foodbank parcels
- Housing concerns
Or if you have any other issues please speak to Mrs Suzanne Hodgkin our Family Support Worker.
Our Inclusion Programmes to support your child
Aimed at Key Stage 1 children to support emotional wellbeing.
One to one and group work designed for the behaviour needs of specific children.
Pastoral One to One Intervention
For those children who just need a check in from time to time.
Emotional Wellbeing Groups
Groups aimed at children who may need additional support with their social and emotional needs.
Time to Talk Drop In
An opportunity for children to share their worries.
Branches Lunchtime Club
A session run at lunchtime to support identified children with their social interaction skills.
Our Inclusion Programmes to support you and your child
A series of six sessions proven to increase parents’ skills and confidence and so improve the behaviour and wellbeing of their children.
Time for Us
A parent and child bonding session to support parents in spending quality one to one time with a focus child.
Parent Gym is a course of six workshops: each session lasts two hours and is packed with practical tips and techniques to make family life easier and help your children thrive.
- Fun and interactive sessions, with a weekly ‘mission’ to practise at home
- Rooted in scientific research
- A great chance to meet and chat with other parents
Each week’s session covers one of these key topics:
- Chat: How to communicate
- Love: How to show you care, in the right way
- Behave: How to be consistent in setting boundaries
- Care: How to raise healthy children
- Discover: How to encourage learning
- Together: How to build a family support network
If you are interested please speak to Mrs Suzanne Hodgkin via the school office.
During lockdown Parent Gym added some online modules which can be found on the Parent Gym website https://parentgym.com/workouts/.
Also, why not join the Parent Gym’s Facebook group?
Parenting through uncertainty https://www.facebook.com/groups/148481499806766/
Share how parenting is going for you and pick up some ideas from other parents for ways to keep family life calm.
Sometimes we all need that bit of extra support with our finances.
From benefit or tax credit problems, problems at work, housing concerns or general money worries there are services to support you.
We can also supply you with an emergency food bank voucher.
Please speak to Mrs Suzanne Hodgkin, our Family Support Worker, or contact one of the services below.
Leeds North & West Foodbank
For support with budgeting or your benefit payments:
Better Leeds Communities
Leeds Citizens Advice Bureau
Money Information Centre
For support with any housing concerns including homelessness:
Leeds Housing Options
Parenting Hints & Tips
Children respond extremely well to rules and boundaries. They make them feel secure as they know what to expect. They help our children respect us as if we set proportionate and consistent consequences they will understand we are being fair.
By having agreed boundaries we can calmly and consistently follow through when rules are broken but remember, it is important to show our children that we disapprove of the behaviour, not the child.
One way to that you can set this up is by creating an agreed routine for the family to stick to. This is especially helpful with mornings and bedtimes. A time that we all struggle with sometimes!
Children crave the attention of their parents or carers and will do anything to receive this attention. If they are not receiving our attention by behaving well they will misbehave.
A great way to ensure that we are giving our children the right attention is praising them but the amount of praise we give our children and the way we praise them makes a big difference to how they behave. Making sure that we use descriptive praise rather than general praise will make our children feel valued, build their confidence and skills.
|Descriptive Praise||General Praise|
|Is specific||Is general rather than specific|
|Is realistic and truthful||Doesn’t sound genuine, so children don’t believe it|
|Involves noticing the little things that your child does||Can make children scared of trying difficult things in case they fail and you change your opinion of them|
|Focuses on effort rather than results|
Another great way to develop more positive behaviours is to create reward charts. Reward Charts are a quick and easy way to get our children behaving. They help to reward the right kind of behaviour making it more likely that our children will act like that more often in the future.
Try out descriptive praise and see how easy it is to notice the good behaviours that your children are showing, however small. Another great benefit of descriptive praise is that it’s FREE!
Make a reward chart with your child.
- Get your child to write their name on the top of a piece of paper
- Write one or two things that you would like them to get better at, eg getting ready for bed, getting ready for school
- Agree a treat that they will get when they reach the end of the chart, remember to try to make this something you can do together rather than something that will cost a lot of money
- Get creative! Decorate the outside of the chart with stickers, glitter and anything else that your child likes
- Every time you child does well at the behaviours you have chosen, ask them to stick or draw a star next to their name
- When they have got 10 stars, it’s time for the treat!
Other types of Reward Charts:
Make some ‘mystery reward envelopes’ so when your child reaches 10 stars they can choose a reward, what might it be?
Instead of a chart you might want to use marbles or balls. Get an empty jar and when your child does well at the behaviour on the jar add a marble or ball. Once they get to 10 they get a treat!
Do you sometimes feel like it is easier to let your children do what they want than to deal with the tantrums?
If we want our children to respect the rules we set, they need to know that we mean business. That means following through with consequences, even if it may feel easier to give.
If your child doesn’t believe there will be any consequences for their behaviour they’re not likely to do as they’re told.
Remember to not feel guilty about giving your children a consequence to their behaviour. Your job is not to be your child’s best friend. It is to teach them that there are consequences for their behaviours and where the boundaries are. If you back down they will think that they can talk you out of anything and their behaviour will get worse.
Don’t nag, shout at, or plead with your child to do what you ask. This gives them a chance to argue with you or get angry. Instead, use short, snappy phrases and a no-nonsense voice to give your instructions.
If your child misbehaves use ‘3 strikes and you’re out’
|If your child:||You should:|
|Misbehaves||Hold up your finger and say ‘that’s one’|
|Makes excuses or argues, but doesn’t stop the unwanted behaviour||Wait 5 seconds, hold up two fingers and say ‘that’s two’|
|Still doesn’t stop||Wait 5 seconds, hold up three fingers and say ‘that’s three-you’re out’
Then give a consequence eg a time-out, no TV for 2 hours
|Has had a consequence and is behaving well||Don’t lecture or mention the behaviour again. Praise them for behaving well|
|Misbehaves again||Repeat the process|
If your child does something wrong for the very first time, explain why it is wrong but don’t discipline them. The next time they do it ensure that you do.
Lashing out at our children unfairly will make them feel angry and insecure. It will also confuse them about what’s acceptable behaviour and what’s not.
Think back over the last week and write down 3 times that you have flipped out unfairly at your child and why it happened.
If we notice when we’re doing it, we can stop it.
Our coffee mornings are a great opportunity to meet other parents and find out more about Ryecroft Academy over a coffee and a slice of cake.
We will update this page when we are able to hold Coffee Mornings again!
Inclusion at Ryecroft
Meet the Team
Mr Rob Stephenson
Mrs Michelle Cattley
Mrs Suzanne Hodgkin
Mrs Sarah Schmidt
|Agency||Contact details||Information provided|
|Leeds City Council’s Money Information Centre||Website: https://www.leeds.gov.uk/leedsmic/Home
There isn’t a specific MIC office, instead lots of centres and organisations across the city are branded as MICs, such as the credit union branches, debt advice agencies, Council One Stop Centres and libraries. Links are available on the ‘Need Money or Debt Advice’ page of the MIC website. Staff at these offices are trained to signpost and refer you to the relevant place for help.
|On this website you will find details on where to access free, independent and confidential advice and support in the following areas:|
|Leeds Food Aid Network||Website: https://leedsfoodaidnetwork.co.uk/category/news/
The new National Citizens Advice helpline free phone number – 0808 208 2138 (Monday to Friday, 10am to 4pm) can also help people with getting a referral for emergency food parcels.
|Access a form that can be used if you need help to find emergency food provision from Leeds Food Aid Network.
You can refer yourself or someone else for support.
|Leeds City Council||Website: https://familyinformation.leeds.gov.uk/families
Contains a parent portal to access family support services across the City.
|Contains a link to some great ideas to keep children entertained during the holidays. From jigsaw puzzles to den building and virtual museum tours, work your way through the list one activity at a time, then start all over again.|
|Housing Support||Website: https://www.leeds.gov.uk/docs/Repairs%20handbook.pdf
Advice and support if you need to report a Leeds City Council rented housing problem.
Contact 0113 3784699 for support with privately rented housing problems.
website: [email protected]
|Do you live in a rented property that has faults?
Is your landlord refusing to fix the faults?
| Website: https://www.familylives.org.uk/
Telephone helpline: 0808 800 2222
Family Lives is a national charity that supports families and offer non-judgemental support and advice.
Their website also offers information and advice on challenging behaviour in children: www.familylives.org.uk/advice/primary/behaviour/ challenging-behaviour
|As well as core family support services offered through our helpline, there is tailored support around issues such as bullying, special educational needs, and support for specific communities.|
|Childline –provided by NSPCC||Website: www.childline.org.uk
Telephone: 0800 1111
Ask Sam – through a message board facility
Text ‘Shout’ for support on 85258.
Contact Childline with SignVideo for children with hearing disabilities. Sign Video lets you contact through a BSL interpreter anytime from Mon-Friday, 9am -8pm. Saturdays, 9am-1pm
|To access a counsellor who are there to listen and support children and young people with concerns and worries. Or you can have a 1-2- counselling chat online. You can discuss anything you like from being a victim of bullying, feeling low and struggling with sleep patterns; to mental health issues, or general low mood.|
||Website: https://www.mindmate.org.uk/im-a-parent-or-carer/resources-for-parents/||Contains links to services in Leeds supporting children and young people’s social, emotional and mental health and wellbeing.|
|Kooth –||Website: www.kooth.com
Visit kooth.com and sign up for the text based conversation with a qualified counsellor. Counsellors are available from 12 noon to 10pm on a weekday and 6pm to 10pm at weekends.
There is also support for Y6 pupils who have worries about transition.
|Kooth is a service which provides support with well-being and resilience. Kooth is a web based confidential support service available to 10-18 year olds who are going through a hard time. Kooth provides a safe and secure means of accessing mental health and well-being support. This is designed specifically for young people.|
Email: [email protected]
Telephone: 116123 (24 hours a day, 365 days a year
|Encourages children and adults to talk about their own mental health needs and provides top tips for managing mental health during crisis.|
|Young Minds||Website: www.youngminds.org.uk|
Text ‘YM’ to: 85258